Fear, You, Your health, your Life
What are you afraid of? Fear dis-empowers you/us and empowers them. Are you afraid of terrorists, the IRS, the government, losing your health insurance, not being accepted, not being loved, the unknown or, on and on? We humans can have as many fears as we have possible addictions. Do you know what your major fears are? Fear is a powerful negative emotion that is used to dis-empower and manipulate. So where do they start?
How far back in your life can you remember and when did you first experience fear? The more you experienced it as a child, the more fearful you will be as an adult and that is what I call a truism. And, you don’t need to have the actual experience, fears need only to be related or told to you, at a special receptive moment by a person who has psychological control over your thoughts (a person you trust). Another truism that is closer to the truth is that you should not/must not have a fear of someone who society tells you to love and respect (parents). If you feared one or both of your parents because of some form of abuse (there are many), that fear must be taken out of closet and dealt with. Dealing with negative emotions related to parents for any reason can be difficult, but it must be done. Perfect parents and perfect childhoods are as rare as Cosmos absolutes.
I had a good childhood and my parents were reasonably competent. I had no reason to fear them and they allowed me to grow, learn and become an individual. I believe that they knew that what I needed most from them was to be given a lot of space, to be left to my own devices, while they supplied a loving safety net. They just sort of left me alone, I love them for that great gift and that gift also was a part of my childhood not being perfect, just good and that’s OK. When you think of your time as a child with your parents and family, forget about societies expectations, be honest with yourself and make an honest appraisal. How was it?
Of course there are many other forms of fear, bullies, bats, being alone, being with people, not belonging, bowling balls, that’s just part of the Bs and there are 25 other letters. How many of your fears are real, how many aren’t? If you perceive your fears as being real, they are. Like beliefs, they are learned and they don’t need to make sense to anyone but you.
When I was studying NLP, Richard Bandler was doing quick phobia cures, something I still haven’t mastered. A phobia is an exaggerated fear of an object or a class of objects. Phobias are learned and if they are learned, they can be taught or installed. A good example of teaching/installing a fear took place on September 11th, when the Trade Center buildings were blown-up and came crashing down. At that time, the U.S. was re-introduced to being attacked, within a few moments of the attack a name was put on the terrible event, “terrorism”, national fear was taught/learned and some developed a phobia from the event and we allowed extraordinary measures, in hopes that they (the government) would protect us from the terrorists. We allowed ourselves to be dis-empowered, our surveillance society is one result and we have transferred the control of our fears to “them”.
This non-empowering emotion is easily learned from someone we trust and depend on. What about fear of the unknown, the what-if? I will use health, or lack of, because that's also a national fear. Most have the encouraged fearful belief that they (someone outside of them) are in control of their personal health. Some years ago I wrote an article, “If We Don’t Get Our Drugs, We Will Die”, a true article about a bus load of people who had that belief. They were all on a quest to get their life saving(?) drugs, an erroneous fear taught and installed by society, government, medical prescribers, insurance companies, even parents, and. All of the drug-seeking passengers were ignorant of alternative activities that could have ended their fears. When a belief is dis-empowering, control is easily maintained and a bunch of money can be made from it.
Empowered people have fewer fears and we do live in a fearful world. If I lose my job, I will lose my medical insurance, my new SUV, my new house, my trip to (wherever), my status, my identity, I won’t be able to afford medical treatment/drugs, I could die, or at least become sick, on and on. Fear is a big deal, it keeps people off balance and enslaves them. There are choices, be afraid or empower yourself with real knowledge. Seek it out, it’s easy to find and you may have found some here. Knowledge Empowers, one of the few absolute statements in the Cosmos. A good start, get rid of some of your medical fears, check out “Health, Greed, Power-II” Butch